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actually speaking krishna and arjuna are

not separate

arjun

is the illusioned and confused mind

christian is the center of the mind that

is the relationship between christian

energy christian is the heart of

that within you which already knows

good evening

i am jhansi and uh currently i am

pursuing triple e b tech in native

ramble it's been grateful for me for

interacting with you

so

one doubt i have is what is actually the

truth sir

i mean

when we are negotiating with the people

um

either we or them

or they we are closed with the

feelings that we are

believing inside i mean like

if we believe strongly anything we feel

it is the truth

so there is no part of learning i feel

like life is

a journey of learning

so if we feel like something is

the truth and something what we believe

is the

ultimate sense how can we negotiate with

the people and how can we learn

what is the better way of communicating

and how

how do we need to feel sir exactly

that's my question

we believe

we believe in something

yes

right

and there is

somebody within who has a stake in

believing

hmm

right

so we

believe

because it is difficult to

go through life

with a feeling of

inadequacy not knowing ignorance

it becomes too much to bear that

no

i do not know

how long can you keep admitting

something comes to you i do not know

something comes to you i only partially

know something comes to you oh i am in

the process of knowing

this is too much for the ego

so the ego

settles

into

easy beliefs

and beliefs are

a quick

and cheap substitute

for real knowing

you

want to really know

you'll have to

give up

some part of yourself that is satisfied

with not knowing

unfortunately

that's

almost the entirety of what we are born

with

um

a collection

of

selves of parts

that are

all

right without knowing but with believing

you look at a

young child

and you will see how

quick

she is

in settling into a belief

just two years old four years old

and she would actually be believing

that there is a large cat

that comes to the house every night

and cooks the

breakfast and so every morning when you

wake up

the breakfast is ready because the large

cat had come

and the kid would be utterly serious

about it

we have something at stake

in just

coming

to a belief

and

ending it there

what is it that is at stake

a lump of ignorance is born

however with a desire

to know

you could say

a lump of ignorance is born

with a desire to not remain as ignorant

as it is

so the desire against itself is there i

know i am ignorant and i do not like my

position

i am stating

the condition of all humanity i know i

am ignorant and i do not

like

myself

in this situation

now there are two options

i work hard and tirelessly and endlessly

to keep knowing

and the second option

is that i just convince myself that i

already know or that with some little

effort

i can know

the second option is very lucrative

why because it is lucrative to the one

within

who values

self-preservation

more than the truth

that's who we are

we value self-preservation more than the

truth

and

real understanding

cannot happen with self-preservation

said as you

proceed

along the way to understanding you keep

losing big parts of yourself that were

satisfied

without understanding

so understanding is a process of self

dissolution

that's the price you paid to understand

you cannot understand remaining who you

already are

you can gather knowledge remaining who

you already are but knowledge and

understanding are different

when you understand

internally

you keep losing

your concept of the self because your

concept of the self

within is as false as your beliefs

without

there are two things that we believe in

outside we believe in things about the

world

inside we believe in things about

ourselves

and these two beliefs go together and

mutually reinforce each other

if you want to drop your false beliefs

about the world

you'll have

to correspondingly drop your false

beliefs about

yourself

and to lose beliefs about oneself

is a bit like death

we don't want to die

since we don't want to die so we keep

holding on to all that we think and

believe about the universe

if something in your belief system

changes

something within you

will have to correspondingly change

we do not like that that change

is

hurtful

nobody wants to take hurt

are you getting it

so one requires to have

courage

and one requires to have love

the good news is that love is already

there

it's just wrongly directed

love towards truth

is the source of

love towards

all that you are attracted to in the

world

there is nobody who is not attracted to

anything in fact we are all attracted to

a thousand things

the attraction that you feel towards

the thousand things in the world

is just

a manifestation of your fundamental love

towards the truth

so you do indeed already love the truth

you just have to

be reminded of that

and to be reminded of that

you need good books

you need good company

or you need a heavy dose of good luck

good luck we cannot count on

who knows where it would come from

but company is something we can actively

choose

books are something we can consciously

pick

and that will tell you what you really

want

what you really want is not shallow

beliefs what you really want is

something deeper

that's where you would be satisfied

is this too heavy

no sir actually that's what i needed

and one more thing i want to ask is

now first of all first of all is this

clear

yes sir

i am clear with it

that's too good to be true

thank you sir

um and another part is

courage

i personally feel i am not so well in

expressing my views and opinions in

front of my peers and my family members

when we are in a discussion uh the thing

what happens is for example if we are

discussing or and

we are about to take a decision

i will just convinced by the others like

although the i can i feel like uh

they're wrong at some corners

and i may feel like i'm strong and

what i

uh understood is clear

i cannot express myself like

i cannot offend them

i cannot uh contradict them and i shall

go with them i cannot uh like strongly

and with confidence i cannot

i mean stand up on my own decision and

opinion

that is what the problem is so how can i

improve the careers

from my i mean in front of my peers and

family

in my life

you have a

rupees 10 note

hmm

a small note you are carrying

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just 10 rupees

and you are carrying a huge

big bundle of currency

let's

make it large for 10 lakhs 10 crores

something

now somebody comes and takes away rupees

10

you probably won't react or object or

resist

somebody comes and takes away

100 rupees somebody comes and

takes away 200 rupees

and you might

ignore these things

would you continue to ignore if somebody

comes and snatches away the entire big

currency bundle

but also probably

not at all

so if you are continuously remaining

silent

when others

are unfairly

dealing with you

what does that tell you about the stuff

they are walking away with

are they taking away rupees 10 or rupees

10 crore

it may be a large amount sir but when it

comes

but you said

that if somebody walks away with a large

amount you will not at all

remain

silent right these are your own words

you said if somebody is indeed walking

away with your treasure

then you will not at all remain silent

but you do remain silent

what does that tell you about the amount

others are walking away with

is it rupees 10 or rupees 10 crore

distance

that is what my problem is

but you said that if others take away

rupees 10 crore you will not at all

remain silent

yeah yes i want to say that one thing

the if the person is a stranger i can

easily offend that but

it's that's that's not that's not a

dimension we want to get into right now

that's not a dimension you want to get

now

please stay with

me

you must be having something in life

that is non-negotiable

where you would say if somebody touches

this then i will not at all tolerate

must be having something right

so if you are tolerating a lot what does

that tell

it's not

right

so that's what is happening

you see

you are not able to

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decisively take a position

because

there is nothing worth taking a position

for

when something

very important will be at stake

then you will find yourself

rising

responding resisting

without even thought

when small things are at stake

then one can ignore and that's what you

are doing

the trouble is not that you are ignoring

the trouble

is that the things you are involved in

are all

small

and when small things are there how will

you

summon your energy to defend

those small things

with

a lot of

courage

and application

that won't just rise

when you are representing something very

very important it's only then that you

don't want to buckle down

first of all

are you sure

that in front of your friends or

relatives or whoever they are batch

mates

you stand to represent something

extremely important

when you do that

then it becomes impossible for you to

back off

then it becomes impossible for you

to buckle down or to or to surrender

i'm not talking of

of being aggressive or violent here

i am talking of not kneeling down

there are certain matters

on which it is easy to compromise and

everybody would compromise and those

matters are anyway

not worth fighting for

right

i'm

i'm sitting and i'm eating and you come

and you

take away a bit of my food i'm not going

to quarrel with you

this is not a big issue

right

one piece of

bread less doesn't matter so much

but if you come and you want to walk

away with my truth

then i'll fight with all that i have

but for that first of all i must have

the truth

if all i have in life

is just rupees ten and rupees hundred

and rupees thousand and breadcrumbs

and a few

pieces of clothing

and something here and there and this is

all that i have in life nothing of great

value

then why will my energy arise to defend

when i am attacked i anyway do not have

anything

you have a room

in which only trash is stacked

do you even care to lock it

even the lock

is more valuable than the things it

locks

if you don't even want to lock that room

then somebody

walks in and walks away with all that

your room had do you care

that's the situation of most people

all that you have in your life

is of so little value

that it can be violated

it can be trampled on

and you you'll find yourself just not

willing to put up a fight

a day will come

when you will have

something to fight for and only then the

fight

has a meaning

and then

you cannot help fighting

then you will find that the option to

not to fight is no more available

when i say fight here i repeat i'm i'm

not denoting aggression or violence

i mean something else i hope

you are with me on that

right

so this usual spinelessness that we find

in most of us

does not come as a result of lack of

courage

it comes as a result of lack of truth

in fact if you have a lot of courage

without having the truth then it is

quite dangerous because then your

courage is being used to defend all

falseness

courage

must be a product of your proximity to

the truth

i know i have something very tremendous

to be with

i know this is what gives meaning and

value to my life how can i part with

this

you can take away all that i have but

this is something

i won't give

then you are a lioness

then let us see

who can misbehave or dominate or violate

okay

real courage therefore

is necessarily

a spiritual thing

it is not about your genes or training

or ideology

it is a spiritual thing

it is related to the word love

have you seen videos

how

cows

fight tigers to save their calves

and that's not even proper spiritual

love

that's just

a worldly and carnal shadow of spiritual

love

but even that shadow has so much power

it can fight away a tiger

think of a cow a mere cow

with not much strength in her body her

body is not made to fight all that she

has

is just the two things on her head

of what

utility are they in front of the the

size the weight

the aggression

the claws

the teeth

of the tiger

you will find her

fighting to death and there are times

when she can actually scare away the

tiger

not because of her power but because of

her ferocity and determination

the tiger now knows that

she will fight till death

so

i don't want to take chances here

she will she will

die but will not succumb

she has something

very very important to defend and that's

just a cough that's not even the truth

you have to have the truth like your

baby

right like how a woman a mother

defends and

and nurses

and takes care of

her baby

that's

how you have to be

with the truth

very gentle

very motherly very soft

yet extremely ferocious

then let us see

how these

wolves and

hyenas

manage to scare you

so another point i want to add is

this one is clear yes sir thank you for

that

and

the main thing amina the practical thing

what i faced is

when the reality comes

our parents insists us to choose a path

and we with the optimistic ideology

tries to choose

our wishes and

our wishes and our choices of what we

love

our passions

so how can we defend our parents and

choose our ways

is it

correct or not

see

even for your parents it is better if

you choose the right thing right

is it not

hmm

you want to

go to the market

to fetch something

you must take the road to the right

somehow your parents feel

that you must

go towards the left

if you go towards the left

you will not reach the market or

you will reach quite late

the thing that you have to bring home

will be delayed

who will suffer obviously you will

suffer because you needlessly traveled

a lot but even the parents will suffer

because the thing that you are bringing

is not only for yourself

being a good daughter

whatever you bring to your life is it

only for yourself

it's for everybody

right

so if you go towards the left and are

unable to bring

the

the nice goods

home

everybody will suffer right

including the parents the parents too

will suffer

they will have the shallow satisfaction

that their daughter obeyed them

they wanted her to go left and she went

left

but after that they'll find that the

daughter is suffering because she could

not get anything

going down left

and even they are suffering because the

things that she wanted to get for

herself would have benefited the entire

family

so the entire family has suffered right

whereas if you go towards the right

initially they might have the

dissatisfaction that their daughter

violated

but soon they will find

that going towards the right has brought

her good benefits

and being a good daughter

she is sharing the benefits

and then they'll be

happy

they may even

say sorry

we doubted you

we were harsh

we suspected

so you have to

see what do you want to give them

shallow satisfaction

or deeper benefits

deeper benefits and happiness

but but initially

you will run the risk of making them

unhappy

you must be prepared to run that risk

but

keep in mind before

you allow yourself to violate your

parents wishes you have to ask yourself

how sure are you

that you are doing the right thing

that's not

with respect to what your parents are

saying you want to go right

irrespective of whether your parents are

supportive

or not

you have to be sure that

going to the right is the right thing to

do

so

have that assurance

and after that don't budge

i

just want to caution that this must not

be

used

to blindly

follow your inclinations and desires

going to the right

has actually to be the right thing to do

not the desirous thing to do

there is a

difference between what is right and

what is desirable

often we clash with parents

because our desires are different from

theirs

and a clash of desires means nothing

one blind desire against another blind

desire

is hardly a battle to watch it is a

meaningless battle

rightness

rightness against desire

is watchworthy

so you have to first of all be convinced

that you are doing the right thing

and then if needed

parents wishes can be opposed or

suspended

but not before you have done your best

to try to convince them

and educate them

so it's a three-step thing first of all

you have to be internally convinced that

you are taking the right decision

secondly

try to bring your parents on board

resistance cannot be the first option

first of all you have to try to take

them along

then you come to the third thing if they

still do not understand and you are

utterly convinced that you're doing the

right thing

then you can

do what is

imperative

to be done

the right thing to do

and

pray that

sooner than later they will understand

and chances are that they will

understand

because the right decision

will bring

the right benefits

those benefits will be there for all to

see

so they will probably understand

so actually in the step one what you

have said

we have to be so i mean so sure that we

are going in the right way

as the parents suggest us away

as a kid of them we feel that

our parents knew

more than what we knew

and we believe in their experience

so we

fall in our confusion that

either we are right or parents are right

there comes the confused answer no no

it's not about am i right or are the

parents right

it's about what is right

huh

that which is right

is obviously not confined to only these

two positions your position and your

parents position

the right is absolute and has to be

chased

not necessarily from where you are

understanding

your own position

does not matter

it's not a debate between

these two sides

the kid versus the parent

the position that the kid is having

meaningless the position

that the parents

are having that too is meaningless

what's meaningful only the truth

so it's not your position that and and

if you are

proven false

that does not necessarily mean that the

parents are right

it could be

that both the parties are mistaken

vice versa if the parents are proven to

be mistaken that does not necessarily

mean

that you are right

it could be that

both of you are totally off the mark

so you have to relentlessly try to know

what is right

often

both the parents and the kids are

deluded

and equally so

so if it is just a

choice between these two positions

one position is hardly any better than

the other

the best

option

could be that parents and kids

search for the right thing together

without insisting on their respective

positions

but that is hardly a thing we see in

families especially in india

so i do not know whether there can be

that kind of a collaborative search

anyway you must

endeavor on your own

one can see

as a young person never be absolutely

sure

i empathize with that

you can never be 100 sure that you are

doing the right thing

but at least to the best of your ability

you must try to know you might still be

proven wrong there is a probability

but do not be proven wrong

for

lack of effort for lack of sincerity

you must be very sincere

and after that if you are proven wrong

or defeated

it is all right you did the best you

could

and if you have done the best you could

it has

immediately

given you great results

within

irrespective of the results you get

outside

the right action builds you up from

within

you become

a far better human being

and that's no mean thing

so

so invest

a lot

in trying to investigate

what is life what decision do i want to

take where is the decision coming from

what really are the consequences what

are the facts on ground

be relentless

in your inquiry

welcome

hmm

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